Our willingness to feel what is present in our bodies at any given moment is one of the greatest gifts we can offer to our healing process. Our bodies are miraculous forms, providing us with a constant stream of sensations and experiences that can open us up to the fullness of living.
Willingness to feel means that we allow pain, sadness, grief, joy, ecstasy, spirit, and everything in between to move through us like a wave. The poet Rumi likened our experience of feeling to a guest house, that when inviting a feeling to enter through its doors had the furniture violently swept up and out. Sometimes the wave of emotions brings us to our knees, allowing us the opportunity to humbly surrender to the power of nature and the fragility of humanity.
Most of us chronically defend against feeling. We have lost contact to our source, our intuitive and wise bodies, our vehicles of healing. Understandably, many of us have been received unkindly in our bodies and we have adapted to that terror by cutting of from sensation. We survive these experiences by utilizing ingenious strategies, such as denial, numbing, and muscular contractions that become the armor we wear through our lives.
Generally, our upbringing and culture fully supports the dulling of life. We want all the “good” feelings but turn away from discomfort.
But you cannot dull the pain of life without also dulling the experience of joy. We walk along through our lives with the feeling that though we are living the life we were taught to want, there is an ever present emptiness and unfulfillment that nags at us.
The willingness to be in the discomfort of the feelings you defend against is where the fullness of your life, or your YES, awaits.